The sixth and final category resulting from my survey on why we do not seek help with emotional problems claims that therapy is too expensive.
There are three ways of looking at this:
Genuine financial difficulties – can’t afford it no matter what the price is
Plausible and believable excuse not to seek help
Spending priorities – unwilling to spend money on therapy
Genuine financial difficulties
When people find themselves in genuine financial trouble and money is tight, spending on necessities naturally take priority. Therefore food, utility bills, mortgage or rent come first. Paying for help to sort out emotional problems is simply out of the question no matter how reasonably priced. Unless it is free, it does not happen.
This situation can often be self-reinforcing in that the financial problems cause emotional problems and the emotional problems make it difficult to take the necessary steps to break the cycle.
Convenient excuse not to seek help
Rather than admit to not wanting help, a common avoidance tactic is to claim that therapy is simply too expensive. You can convince yourself that this is true if you say it enough times. Other people are often quite willing to accept such a statement and will not ask further questions; therefore leaving the subject alone. There is a general belief that any kind of professional help is expensive and most likely poor value for money even without checking. Comments like “therapy does not help anyway”, “lawyers never do a thing”, and “dentists just invent something to fix” often pop up when discussing cost of professional services.
The cost of therapy can be perceived to be too high if it does not fit into your spending priorities. We all have a good idea of what we want to spend our money on and whilst we may be quite willing to splash out on something that brings us joy and pleasure, therapy is rarely regarded as belonging to those categories. The National Health Service in the UK does provide free therapy sessions, however the waiting list is currently up to 3 years!
What you actually pay for
To determine whether therapy is expensive, you need to consider what you actually pay for. Most therapy and coaching sessions last between 45 and 60 minutes. This is the length of time that both client and therapist can be expected to concentrate fully and effectively on the issue under discussion. It would be poor value for money if sessions were so long that they become ineffective.
In other words, you do NOT pay for the time spent with the therapist; you pay for the improvements to your life and wellbeing resulting from receiving the therapy.
How does my Thought Field Therapy compare?
I do not advertise the session fees on my website or on Facebook. This is quite deliberate, as I do not want people to reject the help I can offer simply because they think the session fee is too high. My fee will be too high for some and quite reasonable for most. It is far better to contact me, ask questions and get to know me a little before you commit to having a session. At the end of the day, it is up to you to decide how much you want to invest in your wellbeing and also what you want to buy. Ultimately, you invest in yourself.
Think about how much you would spend on a night out (food, alcohol, taxis, etc.). How much do you spend on having your hair done or perhaps your nails? And what about all those purchases you make when you feel low and need a bit of pleasure? We spend a lot of money on things and activities with a short-term pleasure effect. A good night out is great, but it is over the next morning. A visit to the hairdresser makes you look good for a while, but hair grows and you have to do it again.
One Thought Field Therapy session could relieve you permanently of some emotional distress that is making your life less enjoyable and more restrictive than it need to be. Removing a phobia or getting rid of recurring nightmares will make life feel more enjoyable and raise your mood in general.[Go Back]